Bloody Football

Every kid who has ever been injured in any game of junior football I have ever watched has brought tears to my eyes. I knew it would eventually be one of mine and the Universal Mother in me grieved.

Then it happened – just two weeks before the grand final – and he is now 12 weeks out of action.

Love you Dan. X


Taking Things Into Your Own Hands

I remember how funny it was, when my boys were still at kindergarten, to see the occasional little girl with an odd asymmetrical haircut. One day they would be adorable, neat, clean, symmetrical miniatures of their mums, but with lace-frilled ankle socks and wispy piggy tails, and the next day they would turn up to kindy, equally well dressed but with monster hair – ragged and choppy. Of course the little version had played hairdressers and now the horrified mum needed to explain the cute travesty to anyone who would listen.

Fast forward 10 years – they say boys develop more slowly than girls – and my 14 year old decides to cut his own hair.


Okay, so that’s not actually him. There was some other overly confident teen in this world who went down the same pathway in life. Truth was, when I first saw my own son’s hair, I went into shock and just had to fix things up!

Just now I went on a Google search and found a whole lot of little folk who took the scissors into their own hands.









Food Boys Love To Eat: Punjabi Cabbage

So Judge Me #6 – My Son Did Work Experience At Gatehouse!


My oldest son was totally unprepared for his upcoming weeks of compulsory work experience. We had hooked up one week with a mechanic at Toyota, but he hadn’t shown a whole lot of gumption in arranging his second week of experience. So I suggested he spend the second week with me at Gatehouse. He flatly refused at first. But then, as the idea began to take form, and the empty week began to loom, he agreed.

He couldn’t eat breakfast on his first day. He was dreadfully nervous. And I guess I should have been a little more understanding as it is not a typical day for a school kid, to be hanging out in the heart of Melbourne’s Red Light district, with a bunch of women who work, and sometimes even sleep rough, there. However, I reminded my son that he has always visited prisons and helped support ex-offenders in the community, and that our women are pretty much the same, many of them having been prisoners in the past.

I had to run my son through our volunteer training program, and this is when I realised the unique opportunity which had presented itself to instill and reinforce in my son a respect for all women – a rare opportunity in this day of on-line pornography, continuing objectification of women, and extreme violence towards women which exists in our entrenched paternalistic society.

And then I took him across the road to the drop in centre. It was cosy on that cold June day. Food on the tables. Big inviting couches and smiling faces. Babies. Laughter. I saw my son begin to relate and relax. Gatehouse was working its unique magic on him.

He had a wonderful week. He encountered many people who warmly welcomed him. But, best of all, was the feedback I received from my son and from the clients. On his last day, as we walked away to our car, he said, “There really are so many good people in the world, aren’t there, mum?” Then yesterday, one of our women approached me and said, “You have done such a great job with your son. He was so polite and respectful. I wouldn’t expect that from a teen-aged boy. And…” she added with a cheeky smile, “…he’s very good looking.”


Food Boys Love To Eat: Banana Cake With Maple and Cinnamon Frosting


(Not my photo but it looks just like this)

Ingredients for the cake:

1 1/2 cups Gluten Free flour (I like Orgran)

1 teaspoon Baking Powder

3/4 cups of sugar

3 bananas, mashed

1/2 cup lightly flavoured vegetable oil

2 eggs, lightly beaten

1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1 teaspoon real vanilla essence


Grease and line a standard sized loaf tin.Sift flour, baking powder and cinnamon. Add the sugar. Make a well in the centre and add the bananas, oil, vanilla essence and eggs. Stir until smooth then bake in an oven at 150 degrees Celsius for 1 hour. Allow to cool then ice with Maple and Cinnamon Frosting.


100 grams soft butter

1/4 cup pure icing sugar, sifted

1/2 cup maple syrup

1 teaspoon vanilla essence


Mix all ingredients together and cream until light and fluffy.

Gluten Free Note: The gluten free flour in this recipe makes the cake moist yet light. It is best eaten on the same day.